ôLove is like the sea. It's a moving thing, but still and all, it takes its shape from the shore it meets, and it's different with every shore." The previous sentence is a quote from a book called Their Eyes Were Watching God, by Zora Neale Hurston. I've been thinking a lot about that line ever since last week when a good friend of mine told me her significant other said to her, "You're just like a rollercoaster and I don't know if I can do this." Over the week I've been thinking about the conversation I had with her, and I have come to a few conclusions, especially after I've realized a few things from my own relationship.

First off, life is a rollercoaster and there is only one way off the ride. Get used to it, figure out a way to deal with it, hold on tight and enjoy the ride. Relationships of any kind will only work if both people are 100% dedicated to making it work 100% of the time. That means when your rollercoaster ride gets a little rough you hold on a little tighter and know you're going to slow down at some point.

Now, I understand my friend can be "moody" at times. However, I also happen to know she puts up with a lot from this man, which is why I told her they both were wrong. I continued to say, "You have to accept him for who he is, faults and all. If you don't, then one day you're going to be standing in a room, waiting to get married and all you'll be thinking about is the past or what he does to aggravate you. If you can't deal with his habits then you should not be with him now. Now, this whole rollercoaster ride--you do have some mood swings that would give any experienced race car driver some serious whip lash, but he loves you, and everyone who sees you two together can see the chemistry between the both of you."

I know without a doubt in my mind this man has made my friend a better person and she has done the same for him. However, they both need to learn what it means to give and take. And that's relationship advice everyone should take-- myself included. A relationship will not be perfect, because Disney is just a company that makes up perfect fairy tales, and in reality that doesn't exist.

What may work for one relationship might not work for another. Each couple needs to write their own rules, know what's right and equal for each other, remember to accept the other for who they are, treat one another with respect, and most of all remember they are on this rollercoaster ride together.